"You will find a wealth of wisdom, guidance and support in her approachable and compassionate teaching style"
-Rebbetzin Dina Scoonamaker, Speaker, Parent Educator, and Mother of 7
"Whenever I have a need for professional advice that requires expertise, erudition and compassion I turn to Dr. Bass."
-Rebbetzin Tziporah Gottlieb (Heller)
‘What is gonna be with this child?!?’
Living with a complex child can drain you to the core. They may be holding it together (or not) outside of your home, but if home is a safe place, they let the stress out there. And it is HARD.
It feels like anything can set them off and once they fall into that familiar mode, there’s simply no one to talk to.
There is so much going on beneath the surface for your complex child. You may have no idea what to even look for.
It can look different in each child. Maybe they’re:
having loooong, intense and frequent melt-downs
just. so. impulsive
struggling with self-regulation
in frequent conflict with siblings
always sooo bored
If you’re still with me, then this is probably resonating and you might be wondering:
‘What can I actually do about it?’
I designed a 6-week course to help moms just like you discover - and resolve - the intense behaviors that leave you feeling finished.
These easy-to-digest modules are crafted to move you from ‘I-have-to-fix-this. RIGHT NOW!’ to ‘I’ve got this’. We do this by exploring self-regulation, the science behind stress and the practical techniques that are so different to what may have worked for your ‘other’ kids.
In short, this course is here to empower you with information, tools, and really-tried-and-true techniques so you can connect with your complex child and enjoy your family!
Who am I and why am I so passionate about this?
Hi, I'm Ilyssa Bass PhD, psychologist, parent educator and mommy of 5 awesome kids
I have lived through loooong, intense and frequent meltdowns that drained me to the core.
I was trained to diagnose and treat. I wanted a diagnosis, to find out what was wrong with my child and FIX IT. This mindset kept me stuck and helpless.
The game changer for me was finding other mommies like me, online communities of women who were raising kids with what I call Hidden Differences.
The support I found taught me how to uncover the roots of my child's stress, support his strengths and create plans that transformed the difficult behavior so I could ENJOY my family.
Today my passion is sharing those techniques, creating that community for Jewish mommies of complex kids so none of us have to walk this journey alone.
I can't wait to meet you
What participants are saying:
"This course helped me feel validated, understood and supported in this journey."
"As well as being very supportive, the content was great! It was clear, informative, inspiring and helped me see the bigger picture and how it could relate to my specific situation. It has helped me understand myself and my child more. I know I have more to learn but it was a fabulous start. I continue to use many techniques I learnt in the course with my child and it is very helpful!"
–Naomi, US, mother of 3
What you get:
Daily pre-recorded lessons no longer than 10 minutes that are easy to watch at your own pace.
A 24/6 online forum to brainstorm with other mothers and Dr. Bass. Psst, this forum is 100% confidential!
Two, 2-hour live Q & A sessions with Dr. Bass to get your specific questions answered live.
Printable materials: charts, diagrams and exercises to enhance your learning experience.
Tech Support for any glitches that come up along the way!
Explore the modules:
Module 1: Deep Breathe
We know a lot about how humans get dysregulated (aka lose it) and a lot about self-regulation. We’ll help you find what works for you and for your child in those tough moments. This will create a solid foundation for both of you to move forward.
Module 2: Explore the child’s world
Together we’ll explore what is going on for your child. We will go through the 3 main areas of underlying stress for children as well as specific brain-based differences that may be adding to your child's daily stress.
Module 3: Explore the parent’s world
Explore what is really going on for you as a parent. Here we’ll explore the psychology of parenting and why your child can leave you feeling so angry, drained or helpless. This is normal! Your child's behavior is not your fault AND you have what to work on.
Module 4: Proactive plans that work!
We’ll dive into the specific actions you can take before, during and after difficult behavior, with an emphasis on connection and strength building. We want happy, healthy families filled with ahava and shalom (we're not stopping at just ending the meltdowns ladies!)
Module 5: Deepen the connection
You deeply want to connect to your child and your child deeply wants to connect to you. This is harder with complex kids - the behavior is draining and sometimes the connection is different than what you thought it would be. That said, you can connect to this child.
Module 6: Strengths and Support
You’ll leave with a toolbox of strengths-based techniques and approaches that help you navigate the daily gift of living with a complex child. We’ll discuss ways to continue your growth so that you feel supported in this journey.
Ilyssa, I’ve tried all the chinuch classes, how is this program different?
This program is NOT another rewards + consequences + consistency = behavior change model.
Why? You ask? Because I tried those and let's just say they weren't helpful...Your high-stress child brings high stress into your home. And that’s no one’s fault.
They may have sensory sensitivities, attentional or executive function struggles, social skills deficits, learning differences, and the list goes on.
The game changer here is shifting from trying to stop the behavior (which feels helpless at best, like a massive power struggle at worst) to understanding and helping our children with the roots of their stress.
Is this for children with diagnoses (ADHD, ASD-HF, SPD, ODD, Anxiety, etc)?
Yes! The content is geared to helping you deepen your understanding of your child.
Is this also suitable for children without diagnoses?
100%. Many children fall through the cracks because they are not classified with a diagnosis and yet they are still not thriving. This course helps you further explore what is going on with your child.
Will my participation be confidential?
Yes! We realize privacy is very important for our students.
What age child is this for?
This is geared towards moms of children between age 2-17
This program has changed my perspective on how I parent. I'll be more patient (with myself too!) and also have a solid plan for behavior change, using the tools I learned.
Thank you for what you do. You've given me so many tools
The course was amazing!! I gained so much clarity. So much validation. And a new perspective. I shifted blame from myself. and learned to accept, really accept, and be at peace with myself, my situation, and my complex child. My relationship with all of my children has been greatly enhanced through this course.
Thank you Ilyssa!!
The connection course invigorated me and my relationship with my child. It became the source of strength for dealing with the other difficulties that come along with being the parent of a complex child. Dr. Bass's courses are a springboard for lifelong growth in all relationships. They provide the information, safety, and support necessary to create real change in your journey. If you're considering the course, I'd say go for it. This is like nothing you've ever done before!
Still on the fence?
This course is everything I wish I knew
I want you to know that your child is not broken. You are not a bad parent. This can and will get better.
This course walks you step-by-step through the information, tools and support you need to be the best parent you can be to your child.
My best advice is: don’t try to figure it all out alone. View this course as a shortcut to getting you the moments of connection you are craving, having family fun and unlocking your child’s potential.
My goal is to help you shift from overwhelm to a very clear and specific next step and to give you the confidence that you are moving in the right direction.
You don’t have to walk this journey alone.
Let’s do this together.